I'm amazed on a weekly basis how easy it is for little people to make friends. Take today for example. We were watching Girl WonderTwin's (GWT) soccer game today. It's a team full of 4 and 5 year old girls and boys. There are no goalies in this league and everyone celebrates if the kids are kicking the ball toward the correct goal...that's how laid back this thing is.
Anyway, I glance over to see my daughter and another little girl holding hands (ON THE SOCCER FIELD) while the game is in progress. I try to redirect GWT. At this point she lets go of the girls hands and runs over to me. She says, "Mom, do we have a phone number?" It turns out that these 2 little girls were making plans for a playdate! Ha! They had known each other a total of 30 minutes and they are Best Friends...they are holding hands, singing and asking for phone numbers. All while the soccer game is going on, mind you!
It made me think how nice it would be if adulthood was like this! What if we met people, immediately knew we could trust them, and skipped off into the sunset, holding hands.
It's so much harder to make good friends these days. Every phase of life is different, I guess. Right now my relationships are revolving around other moms who have kids in the 3-5 year old range. That's fine. My closest Columbus friends are part of my twin club and all have twins like me. You should see other moms' faces when we all show up to a public place for playgroup . They've never seen 10 sets of twins in one room in their lives.
Thankfully I've made many new friends since moving to Columbus in 2004 but I don't know if any of my newer relationships are as easy as the one that GWT built today. They were fast friends in a matter of minutes and a playdate is already in the works. I'm going to try to follow my daughter's example. I wonder how much easier my relationships would be.
That made me think of my nephew when he was 3, he sat down on the field and started picking buttercups. He is now 23 and requests we not show those pictures.
ReplyDeleteI saw a lady in Target the other day. We nearly bumped carts because we so engrossed in the run time on Dora DVDs. I knew almost instantly that I liked her, and actually thought about how nice it would have been if I could have introduced myself w/o it seeming odd.
I am with ya on this post. It's SOOOO hard to make new friends at this age, in a new town, w/ kids in school all day. wow, it's hard. makes me miss ou and the ease of friendships, a lot.
ReplyDeleteI'm always wishing I could find a BFF. The closest I have isn't even an irl friend, it's an online buddy. Very sad.
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